Do Not Mistake Sexual Repression for Morality
– A Brief Introduction to Sex Fighters for Laissez-Faire
By the mainstream moral conceptions of present day society, all forms of sex outside of monogamous marriage are regarded as grievously against the norm. Society suppresses them comprehensively using the law, sanctions from educational and other institutions, social discrimination, and pressure from the media, etc.
Have you ever reflect on such mindset of sexual repression and the pressure it constituted? Is it not in antagonism against the biological instincts we are born with? Have you continued to reflect that is it such sexually repressive stance and behaviour itself -- which refuses to see, to mention nor to acknowledge the suffering thus created for people being repressed -- that is really most immoral?
To base your pleasure on the suffering of others is mean and despicable. To base your moral high ground on suppression of others’ biologically given instincts – such mean and despicable behaviour has, however, become the moral norm!!!
That, exactly is one perverse aspect of our society.
Let us begin with the general phenomenon of marriage:
Nowadays, the average age at which men and women get married is thirty years or older. This comes about since the last century as we expect longer and longer years of formal education for the next generation. On another front, we are expecting them to acquire the capability for financial independence and thus to bear the financial burden of their families. (This is in contrast to the last generation when most middle and upper class families arrange marriages at the initiative of the parents. Most of these couples married during adolescent years or shortly thereafter. The clan both arranges the marriage as well as pick up the resulting expenses.)
If people wish to enjoy a sex life in conformity to the mainstream received mode, they often have to bear the torment of sex denial for more than a decade before being able to enjoy a sex life with their partner. For those staying single, there is no recognized sex outlet at all!!
This current social phenomenon of marrying until 30 or older, or not at all, is totally out of synchronization with the physiological marriageable age (i.e. the emergency of secondary sexual characteristics to maturity.) This has condemned the absolute majority to living -- during a period that should have been their golden years -- under a shadow of defilement and even guilt just because of a need that they are born with. They also have to suffer in silence a society that exhaust all means to block their opportunity for sexual gratification. All institutions are in total denial of their need for sex.
Have you ever thought about the absurdity and weirdness of such out of sync between social expectation and physiological reality? Such out of sync has never been raised as matter for concern by our social leaders nor experts. What a collective blindness!! Have you ever thought about how pathetic and infuriating that these leaders and experts are just so many ostriches in the sand.
But our present day society is perverse. It regards sex before marriage as wrong. It imposes ideas of sexual repression on those with bodies matured for sex and thereby disregards people’s sex needs. Present day society seldom attributes the problem to the obtuseness of society and cultural norms. It merely laid the blame on the young who are unable to fight back and brain washed. This is just to gratify the lust for control and hegemony on the part of the powers that be, the experts and the religious leaders.
Other than the young, one can induce that sexual need would not wane due to your not being able to find a partner, be it arising from a lack of good looks, deformity, shyness, or not well-off, etc. Neither would sexual desire vanish if your partner dies, emigrate, suffer from health problems, be estranged, of incompatible temperament, have radically different sexual preference, etc. Besides, modern medicine has discovered that an overwhelming majority of cases of homosexuality is determined by genes. If we persist in regarding homosexuality with a moralistic perspective, this is sheer ignorance and bigotry.
This case of moralists’ in disregard for reality and their hijacking the moral high ground to vent their lust for control could be evidenced more in the case of sex workers. They, like the young, are the scapegoats for the powers that be in our society. They are stigmatized with all sorts of bad names. In reality, it is an ostentation of power by bullying the underdog so as to gratify their moralistic conceptions and self-righteousness.
We. Sex Fighters for Laissez-faire, through reflecting truthfully the sexual repression suffered by different sectors of present day society, let sex be liberated from suppression and stigmatization, rendering sex no longer be exclusively under the control of the powers that be and of religion. On the premise of human rights and needs, we fight for the right to enjoy the pleasure of sex by individuals and in the relations between individuals.
We believe that moral and social rules concerning sex should not be monolithically imposed on all individuals (such as the relations between homosexuals, bisexuals, and in extra-marital sexual affairs). These relations have always been stigmatized and persecuted. The love and spirit of giving, as well as the pursuit of sex perfection in these relations are ignored. Also denied are the potential for diverse colourful relations that could be developed on the foundation of good sexual relationship. These moralists are so ignorant that they deny the dimension of learning and pursuit of perfection in sex and sexual relations. They are thereby creating discord and frustration arising from crude sexual behaviour.
Except for organism so ancient and low down the evolutionary scale as those that multiply themselves by cell splitting, sex is the dynamism behind all forms of life. Sexual satisfaction is not just a matter of pleasure. It is the essential ingredient for mental and physical health as well as harmonious relations. On the other hand, sexual frustration is not just a matter of displeasure. It is the catalyst for physical and mental imbalance and tension in human relations. Present day society mistakes sexual repression and sex taboo for self-evident moral norm. It even suppresses and distorts dissemination of knowledge about sex. It mistakes as moral high ground the mindset of hegemony and suppression of others’ space for sex.
Defending the Right to Sex
In principle, the restrictive rules in a free society that we tolerate are those based upon what are the unavoidable restraints for protecting the freedom and equivalent rights of others (or protecting your freedom and rights in the scenario of your being in other roles). All restraints that exceed this principle should be opposed, scrapped or modified. The sexual repression in its many forms that has been mistaken for morality by present day society has seriously violated the aforesaid principle that a free society should abide by.
We, the Sex Fighters for Laissez-faire, hope to awaken the masses to face squarely this social pathology of sexual repression, to develop the sensitivity towards it, to recognize its seriousness, and eventually to oppose it. Sex is part of your given human rights. Arise, brothers and sisters, defend the right that should be yours.
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